We all
have played the game when you look at your phone wandering should you or should
you just wait till they text you. The beginning
stages of texting someone that you are totally interested in but afraid to make
the first texting move. Here are some tips that will help you know what to do
and please don’t even dare to do. EliteDaily has provided some great insight.
Don’t: Be afraid to text.
At some point, you have been in that situation
where you want to call or text someone, but you are afraid of making the first
move.
Meanwhile, he has the exact same problem. So,
both of you sit around, wait for the other to move, and then nothing ever gets
sent.
Sometimes you have to make the first move.
Give him some room after the date so you can think about how it went, what’s
good about him, what’s not so good and so on.
And, if he doesn’t send anything to you, send
something to him. Keep it simple and polite.
But don’t make it sexy. Just don’t.
Do: Use his first name.
You want to establish some level of
familiarity with your date, but you don’t want to do too much of it.
You want to appear warm and familiar with him,
but make sure not to overdo it.
Start by using his first name in your
texts.
As Dale Carnegie of
“How to Win Friends and Influence People” observed almost 80 years ago,
“Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most
important sound in any language.”
Don’t use pet names like “honey” or “darling.”
That just makes you seem overly aggressive and clingy. Keep some space between
you and your date.
Don’t: Abbreviate.
You are not 13 years old anymore, and “Omg lol
kewl” is no longer…kewl.
Abbreviating does not make you seem busy
or hard to get. Rather, it makes you like an illiterate idiot.
So, use proper words and grammar in your
texts. Also, try to keep your texts not too short, but not too long either.
Anything more than a paragraph will once again
make you seem like you are not worth the effort.
But, if a guy writes out something to you and
you respond with nothing more than an “Okay” (or worse, “K”), he won’t feel
engaged.
Do: Ask questions.
I don’t mean questions like, “What’s the
meaning of life?” or, “Who do you support in 2016?” unless you want a short and
contentious date.
But, asking simple questions like, “What’s
your favorite movie?” or “What do you like to do?” is a great way to keep a
conversation going both through texts and in face-to-face interactions.
Asking questions keeps your partner
interested and also lets you know more about his habits, his likes, what he
likes to do and so on.
By doing this, you may be able to learn
whether you two are a good match before you even meet up.
Don’t: Overanalyze.
Don’t read too much into your date’s texts.
If he tells you he’s tired, take it to mean
he’s tired after a long day at work.
Don’t take it to mean he’s tired of
you. This can be applied to pretty much anything he says.
You’re going to need trust to make any
relationship work. That doesn’t just mean trusting he cares about you; it means
trusting his word is his word.
If his word is not his word,
he is not a good match for you anyway.
Don’t: Overanalyze.
Do: Put away the phone.
You’re a busy person. You have that party to
get to, that assignment to finish and that errand to run.
Sometimes, you wonder how humans survive with
just 24 hours in a day.
But, your date is busy, too. So, when he’s
there, don’t pull out the phone. Turn it off and enjoy yourself.
I swear you can survive three hours or so
without it. In fact, your relationships may be better with
it gone.
Texting can be tricky. Words that mean one
thing when used in a face-to-face conversation can mean an entirely different
thing when used in a text.
Miscommunications and mistakes will happen,
just like they happen in all areas of dating.
But, if you relax, stay positive and
proactive, you can avoid a lot of the problems and gain a great way to
communicate with your date.
But, always remember there is no substitute
for face-to-face communication.
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